John Gunter

Thoughts on Life and Living

9 things I have learned from Mom & Dad’s 50 years of marriage

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(This post is from my series, “My thoughts on weddings. . . (a series)“.  If you would like to read more of the articles, please CLICK HERE.

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June 24, 1962. . . Mom and Dad

July was the month of celebrating 50 years of marriage for my parents (click here to read about their wedding).  I was thrilled to be able to be in America to celebrate with them.  This anniversary was one of my primary motivations in doing this series on weddings.

In this post, I will simply write about a few things I have learned through observation from my parents’ marriage of 50 years. There are way more than nine things I have learned from watching my parent’s marriage over the years.  However, as I sit down to write about it, here are the first nine which come to mind. . .

9 things I have learned from watching my parent’s 50 year marriage:

  • Laughter is important – If you have never been around my parents together, that really is too bad.  They are fun.  They laugh.  Especially Mom.  She laughs often, freely, and with great volume (CLICK HERE to learn more about Mom and her laugh).  Mom genuinely thinks Dad is the funniest man in the world.  Seriously.  He is really funny.  Other people also laugh at my Dad’s humor, but nothing approaching the level or decibel of my Mom.  With them, I have seen laughter as vital.  Life can be hard.  Laughter is important, if not necessary.  If I ever meet a woman who thinks I am half as funny as Mom thinks Dad is, I will marry her then and there.  Well, maybe not that dramatically, but you get my point.
  • Children are a privilege and stewardship – Mom and Dad prioritized their kids above all things.  Mom quit work and poured her energy into us.  Dad halted all personal hobbies and activities while we were still in their home.  Once I went to college, the [Read more…]

Alaskan beauty and the image of God

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As I type this, I am sitting in a coffee house here in Skagway, Alaska.  Mom and Dad are treating the entire famliy to a 10 day cruise around Alaska.  It will end in Vancouver.  This is in celebration of their 50th wedding anniversary.

Skagway, AK
This is the view from my current writing spot. . .

Looking out of the window at this old gold rush era town of Skagway, there are snow caps engulfing the two-story building lined streets to my right.  The buildings look like something out of an old western movie you would see on TNT late at night.  To my left, the deep blue waters hold car sized ice-boulders which have chipped off from nearby glaciers.  In a word, this place is astounding.  I’m not much for scenery, but even I have been moved by this rugged, arctic locale.

In the past two days, whales have swum as close as 20 yards from the table from which we were enjoying dinner.  Two otters swam carelessly 50 yards [Read more…]

Betsy’s wedding gift and sacrifice

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(This article is in “My thoughts on weddings. . . (a series)” that I did during June and early July.  If you have not read the other posts, I suggest you click here for an overview of the series and past articles.)

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My wonderful sisters, Becky and Betsy

It was a few months prior to my graduation from college.  Life was crazy, but school was slowing down.  My sister Betsy was getting married in April.  You see, I love both of my sisters as much as is possible for siblings to love each other.  I was, and continue to be, fortunate to have sisters whom are also close friends.  To this day, there is nothing I enjoy more than spending time with Betsy and Becky.  Seriously.

Anyway, Betsy getting married was a big deal to me.  I was excited for her and proud of her.  My biggest desire was to get her an awesome gift.

Problem. . . I had a sum total of ZERO money.  None.  I could ask my Dad for money to buy this awesome gift, but this just didn’t seem right.  He would have happily obliged, but still it didn’t seem right.  I wanted to get Betsy a gift that expressed a fraction of my love for her (and Bill. . . my equally awesome brother-in-law).  What to do, what to do??? [Read more…]

Of all the weddings. . . this one was the most special

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(This post is part of my series “My thoughts on weddings. . . (a series)”.  For an overview of and to read the other articles in this series, please click here.)

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June 24, 1962. . . a most special wedding in Glennville, Georgia.

In this season of weddings, my mind is reflecting today upon a particular wedding of which I was not a direct part of, yet it directly affected me more than any other in history.

This particular wedding began at 4:30pm on a Sunday afternoon.  It was June 24, 1962.  Fifty years ago today.

The setting was the sleepy southern town of Glennville, Georgia.  I’m sure it was hot and humid.  Sunday services had been in session there at the First Baptist Church just a few short hours prior to this wedding.  I’m sure there was hustle and bustle in putting flowers out and readying the church for this different type of worship service.

I’m certain the bride was stunning.  She still is 50 years later.  She had come to Atlanta out of Stetson University to become a teacher, but ended up falling in love.  I understand there were quite a bit of nerves that June day, but that was too be expected for an occasion of this magnitude.  Her cousin was performing the ceremony.  Her father had passed away a few years earlier, while she was a freshman in college, so he was unable to give her away.  Her mother, Georgia Mae, was poised and gracious as always, I’m sure.

I’m certain the groom was handsome.  He still is 50 years later.  With his cropped crew cut and quick natured confidence, I’m sure he was a site to behold.   He was just a few years removed from Georgia Tech and at the beginning of his professional career.  He was probably smirking and joking much of the day, as he has always been prone to humor in situations like this.  I imagine he was in rare form this particular June Sunday afternoon.  His family had come in car loads from Atlanta and other destinations.  I’m sure they were taking in the Glennville, Georgia charm.

Fifty years ago today my parents, John Wyman Gunter and Sarah Katherine Seckinger, were married.  My Dad, no doubt, shifted his feet impatiently [Read more…]

Mom’s laugh and sacrificial heart

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John Gunter with parents
Mom, Dad, and I at their surprise birthday last year

Today, my Mom (Kay Gunter) is on my mind.  If you don’t know her, that is too bad.  She has a laugh that is inexplicably delightful.  She laughs from her belly.  She laughs loud and boisterous, the kind of laugh you can hear from far away locations, like from Atlanta to Toledo.  She laughs in a way that makes everyone in the room happier for being there.

Additionally, my Mom is sweet and kind.  She visits EVERYONE in nursing homes, hospitals, dungeons, caves, sewers, and every other rough place people who are fortunate enough to know my Mom end up.  Seriously, my entire life has been filled with her serving people who are down, [Read more…]

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